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- A woman wrote to the “Dear Abby” column to seek advice, sharing that she and her close friend of 25 years had a falling-out over her friend’s son’s wedding several years ago
- She said she was hoping her friend would invite her to ride to the venue with the family and allow her to stay overnight in her hotel room the day before the wedding
- When her friend never responded, she ended up skipping the wedding, and the two haven’t spoken to each other since
A woman says she was ghosted by her close friend of 25 years — and it all started over wedding accommodations.
The woman shared her story in a letter to the “Dear Abby” column, published by the New York Post. She explained that she and her former friend Carla haven’t “spoken for several years” following Carla’s son’s wedding, where she asked for “free accommodations.”
The woman noted that the dress code for the event was “cocktail attire” and the venue was “an hour and a half” away from where she lives and she doesn’t drive. At the time, she was experiencing “financial difficulties,” and was worried about her attire and getting to the venue.
She shared that she told Carla that she had no way to get to the wedding on her own and that an Uber would cost about $200. “I was hoping I could ride with her,” she wrote.
“The family had rooms at the hotel where the wedding was being held. I was hoping she’d offer that I could go with her and stay the night with her at the hotel,” the woman continued. “She didn’t offer, so I didn’t attend.”
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After her no-show at the wedding, Carla didn’t return her calls, and the two have not spoken since then.
“I miss her terribly,” the woman admitted. “After all this time, would it be wrong to contact her again, or should I just let it go? I have been upset about the situation for years. I’d love your opinion.”
“Abby” — a.k.a. advice columnist Abigail Van Buren — responded by noting that “weddings can be complicated affairs,” and suggesting that it was likely that Carla had been “stressed and distracted” due to the “number of guests and all the activities related to the wedding at the hotel.”
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“To have expected her to provide you with transportation and share her room with you may have been regarded as presumptuous,” Van Buren pointed out.
She told the advice seeker that if she would like to hear her friend’s side of things and “gain some closure,” she should “reach out” to Carla and clear the air.