By KBC Associate 
Use apps with strong encryption, store content in encrypted folders, and avoid cloud backups that put your security in someone else’s hands. Be cautious about who you send content to—relationships change, and what feels safe today may not be tomorrow. Think before you hit send, because even a trusted partner can have their phone hacked, lose their device, or accidentally sync your messages to the cloud. If you truly want zero risk? Keep your steamy moments off-camera and in the moment.
Let’s talk worst-case scenario: your intimate content is leaked. Maybe an ex went full revenge mode, a hacker got into your files, or your device was compromised. Whatever the reason, you need to act fast. AJ’s first piece of advice? Know the laws in your area. “In many cases, someone can contact a website hosting content that was published without consent and have that content removed,” he explains. “There are also criminal and civil actions that can be pursued for dealing with individuals sharing private content.”
But here’s the reality check—if the content is hosted beyond your country’s jurisdiction, you may have little legal recourse. Once something hits certain corners of the internet, it can be nearly impossible to erase. If your content has been leaked, consider contacting a digital privacy attorney, using takedown services, and reporting the violation to the platform hosting it. While it may not always be possible to fully erase the content, limiting its spread is crucial. If someone is threatening to leak your content? Don’t engage, document everything, and get legal help immediately.
Setting Boundaries for Safer Digital Intimacy
Let’s be clear: sexting should always be fun, consensual, and free from fear. That’s why setting clear boundaries with your partner is just as important as choosing the right app. “Like most things in relationships, I’d say this starts with communication,” AJ says. Having agreed-upon rules prevents misunderstandings and ensures both partners feel comfortable and respected. Talk openly about what you’re okay with, where content is stored, and how it should be shared.
Best practices? Keep intimate content in encrypted channels like Signal, store files in encrypted folders, and limit cloud storage use. Cloud services may be convenient, but they rely on third-party security, which means you’re trusting someone else with your privacy. If sexting is a regular part of your relationship, consider setting up a ‘no-save’ rule, using disappearing messages, and always checking that your partner is on the same page.